If you want to grow and change to be more effective in your personal or business life, you must self-observe with kindness. Self-awareness requires you to be kind to yourself. Often we want to blame others for how we react – “You were mean, that’s why I lashed out at you.”
I love the question “What’s your juice?” as a way to be kind to yourself as you self-observe.
Wayne Dyer is a self-help guru whose first book Your Erroneous Zones sold 35 million copies. He was doing a talk and asked: “What do you get when you squeeze an orange?”
The answer is “Orange Juice.”
“Why do you get orange juice?”
“Because that’s what’s in the orange?”
The real question that Dyer asks then is “What comes out of you when you get squeezed?”
Whatever your answer is… that is what’s inside of you.
If anger comes out, you can’t blame the other person for you being angry. The anger is already inside of you.
IF you can take responsibility for how you react instead of blaming someone, then you have the power. If you blame them, they have power over you because you give it to them.
Who has the power in your life? It’s up to you?
Blaming does not give you power. You may avoid feeling shame or embarrassment at the moment by making others the cause of your reaction but being a victim of others has you feel shame or embarrassment in your life.
Take your power back.
When you take responsibility for how you react, you give yourself the power. Then, you can ask yourself, “What can I do differently?” Now, you are in a mood of curiosity and exploration and you are open to change. Now life is different. You are in action, you are empowered, you are excited because life is full of possibility.
What do you choose? Own your juice or blame others?
You can make the shift from blame to power. If you would like support, please reach out to me at https://YourJourneytoLastingLove.com/Contact.